Since a person with a penis can orgasm from any sort of sexual stimulation, usually marking the end of the sexual experience, we have come to expect vaginas to work the same way (thanks, unrealistic porn and non-comprehensive sex ed!).
You probably have someone in your family that would freak out if you wanted to cut your long hair, or someone who told you what to do with the hair that you cleaned out of your comb or brush. You have probably seen people insist on covering their hair when leaving their homes, either for modesty or protection. Your mother probably told you not to let just anybody "play" in your hair. Why all the fuss? Why does it matter?
All the cool spiritual folks on Instagram post pictures of their bundled herbs smoldering on an abalone shell, moving the smoke around on the room with a feather. When we are beginning our journey we think "Oh, this must be something I need to do." But if you don't know what you're doing and why you're doing it, you probably won't get the results you want.
The thing about journaling is that yes, it is something that tuned-in people do (and you should be one of those people) and it is good practice to adopt into your morning or nightly routine. Regular reflection should be a part of everyone's spiritual and self-care practice, as it helps us to see what's working and what's not, and develop a plan to change. However, the standard "Dear Diary" we saw depicted so often in the media is not the only way to use a journal.
It is easy to think that all you need to do is "set your intentions" or pray and visualize our goal for all our dreams to come true. We have to remember that good magic is practical magic. Whatever you do to petition and commune with your divine in order to co-create your experience (I call that magic, you call it whatever you want), it has to be followed up with action.
The holidays are here and once again you've got to figure out what to get for your family and friends. It never fails, you probably can't think of what to get for the one (or few) woman in your life who is into weird things that can't be found on the typical trip to Target (unless you know where to look *wink*).
She's an eclectic, non-traditional, earthy, quirky, moon-gazing, horoscope-reading, sage-burning, tea-drinking, Erykah Badu/Lauryn Hill/India Arie type and a generic gift card just won't do.
Don't worry, help is here!